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Anger Management Counselling: Are You Ready to Take Control?

What is Anger Management Counselling?

Do any of these sound familiar?

“Sometimes I just don’t get why I do what I do?”

“Where do I go from here?”

“Why do I keep finding myself in arguments?”

“I’m trying and trying but honestly I just feel a bit powerless.”

“How do I fix this? I just don’t understand what’s going wrong.”

Managing anger is more than just learning to keep calm. It’s about transforming your response to emotions and cultivating a healthier, wiser and more effective approach to challenges. Our specialised anger management counselling service in Melbourne and online via Telehealth is designed to help you achieve just that.

Anger management is an approach to counselling which is designed to help you understand, manage and express your anger in healthy and constructive ways. This involves working with a professional counsellor who can help you identify anger-related triggers, explore underlying issues, learn how to regulate your nervous system and develop effective coping strategies.

The general aim of anger management therapy is to reduce the frequency and intensity of angry outbursts, improve your emotional regulation skills, and enhance your overall well-being.

Each individual experiences and expresses anger differently – recognising this, Ben’s anger management counselling service in Melbourne is personalised to meet your specific needs. The aim is to provide you with the tools and insights necessary to navigate life’s stresses more positively and productively.

Why do I get so angry?

There are a range of reasons that someone may experience anger. Anger management challenges are usually linked to other life issues such as stress at work or home, trauma, depression, anxiety, and alcohol and substance use or other addictions.

Being angry may also be linked to a sense of shame, guilt, hopelessness or self-blame. Ben’s approach to treatment will focus on all areas of your life so you can address a range of anger-related issues in your counselling sessions.

Research has also shown that there may be differences in the expression of anger between genders (Fischer & Evers, 2009). For example, culturally, women are often taught to suppress anger. This can lead to internalisation which, as a trait, may cause harmful stress-related illnesses (such as chronic pain, IBS, anxiety etc.) in both men and women. Men may be taught to externalise anger (yelling, throwing items, fighting etc.), and may also have a stronger physiological response when angry. Ultimately, however, each individual has a unique experience and expression of anger, and understanding triggers, behaviours and ways to regulate their emotions is part of the therapeutic process.

Some people feel angry when their boundaries are overstepped or when someone infringes on their values and beliefs.

But what exactly is anger?

Anger is an emotion that common in all human beings. It’s typically a response to a perceived physical or emotional threat (Saini, 2009). This can be something as obvious as such as someone cutting you off in traffic, or less obvious like someone at work unintentionally triggering feelings of rejection from past event in your last. Anger by itself isn’t negative but depending on how it’s expressed it can have a significant negative impact on the quality of one’s life and relationships.

Anger can range from feelings of mild irritation up to intense emotions like fury or rage. It also manifests in different ways, such as through physical or emotional tension, such as increased heart rate, muscular tension, irritability or aggressive behaviour.

How do I know if I need anger management counselling?

It might be a good time to look at strategies for anger management if you notice any of the following signs:

  • Your friends or family members have told you that they think you may have a problem with anger
  • You have conflict with co-workers
  • You feel angry a lot of the time
  • Some people have distanced themselves from you because of your anger
  • You hold grudges and spend time thinking about revenge
  • You often think about being aggressive or violent

How can I benefit from anger management counselling?

There are several physical and mental health benefits that a course of anger management counselling may provide (Anithalakshmi, 2023):

Reduced stress and anxiety: There is a direct link between stress, anxiety and anger. By working through your anger, you will find that your overall levels of stress and anxiety start to decline and vice versa.

Improved ability to regulate your emotions: Anger is an uncomfortable experience, and by treating your anger, you will gain an ability to regulate other emotional experiences.

Increased self-awareness: Understanding our own history, patterns of behaviour, beliefs, and triggers, can all contribute to a greater sense of self-awareness.

Improved physical health: As our anger reduces, our physical health may improve. This is because the experience anger puts stress on our body. Also, when you find healthy outlets for your anger, such as physical activity, you’ll see benefits with your physical health.

Improved communication skills: By learning how you can better express your own needs and frustrations in your relationships, you can have more constructive conversations with family, friends, loved ones and work colleagues.

Less self-blame and self-criticism: A harsh inner critic is often related to self-blame, self-criticism and high levels of anger. Developing a healthier relationship with ourselves and our inner voice can lead to reduced levels of anger.

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Frequently Asked Questions (F.A.Q's)

Which techniques are used in anger management therapy?

There has been much research on anger and mental health, and a variety of psychological strategies have been proven to be effective treatment methods (Saini, 2009). Some of the techniques that Ben uses in therapy come from the following schools of thought:

  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
  • Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT)
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Existential Therapies such as Logotherapy
  • Hypnotherapy

Broadly speaking, Ben’s approach will include the following:

  1. Understanding Your Anger: We begin by exploring the triggers and underlying factors contributing to your anger.
  2. Building Skills: Develop strategies to manage intense emotions and react constructively.
  3. Holistic Focus: Our approach goes beyond just managing anger; we aim to promote overall emotional well-being.
  4. Post-Traumatic Growth: We help you turn challenging experiences into opportunities for personal development.

What should I look for in an anger management counsellor?

Experience: You may want to ask your counsellor or therapist if they have seen someone with anger management issues before. Other factors such as the age or gender or the clients that they have worked with may be useful to know as well.

Personal compatibility: One of the most important factors that leads to success in counselling and therapy is feeling comfortable with the therapist you are working with. It’s good to have a couple of sessions to get a sense for what the session may be like, then decide from there if you would like to continue.

Qualifications and training: It’s important to find someone who has qualifications, is registered and has insurance. Ben has an M.Ed. in Counselling, an M.Sc. in Applied Neuroscience (Mental Health) and is registered with the Australian Counselling Association (ACA).

How many sessions does anger management counselling take?

The number of sessions required for anger-related counselling can vary greatly depending on what the individual is looking for. For short-term therapy, you may want to look at 6-12 sessions. However, those who are looking to continue to address the underlying psychological causes of their anger may extend to several months and space their sessions out. Some people find it beneficial to have monthly check-ins as a way to express their emotions and manage their anger.

How do I prepare for my first session?

Before scheduling your first session you will have a brief 15-minute phone conversation whereby Ben answers all of your questions to help you decide how anger therapy may be most beneficial to you. You may want to reflect on what has been going in your life, why you believe you have been getting angry, and what brought you to consider counselling at this moment in time.

Is this counselling covered by insurance?

Depending on your private health cover you may be eligible to receive a private health rebate. I have provider numbers for both BUPA and ARGH. Unfortunately, at this time, only clinical psychologists are able to offer medicare rebates and therefore I do not offer bulk-billed services.

Ready to make a change?

Ready to take control of your anger and transform your life? Reach out to Ben Fishel’s Anger Management Counselling Service in Melbourne or via telehealth to all major Australian cities and towns (Sydney, Brisbane, Gold Coast, Perth, Adelaide, Canberra) – basically anywhere with a stable internet connection!

Book your free consultation and start your path to a calmer, more fulfilling future.



Anithalakshmi, S. (2023). Anger Management Strategies and Benefits of Anger Management Therapy. EPRA International Journal of Multidisciplinary Research (IJMR)9(2), 21-28.

Fischer, A. H., & Evers, C. (2009). Anger in the context of gender. In International handbook of anger: Constituent and concomitant biological, psychological, and social processes(pp. 349-360). New York, NY: Springer New York.

Saini, M. (2009). A meta-analysis of the psychological treatment of anger: Developing guidelines for evidence-based practice. Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law Online37(4), 473-488.


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